1. Lighten Up
Remember when you and your husband first starting dating? You were the
carefree woman who laughed and flirted? Life's stress can really take a toll on a
relationship, and sometimes we forget to laugh. Flirt with your husband. Tell
stupid jokes. Reminisce about funny things that happened. Life can't always be
fun and games, but let it be sometimes. Keep the humor going between the two
of you and keep things funny and fun.
2. Take Care of Yourself
you can do simple things for him (and yourself) to show him your beauty.
Sometimes marriages can put us in a rut, and we no longer think it's necessary to
look nice for our spouse. Brush your teeth, take a shower, and leave the ratty
sweatpants in the drawer. Do yoga when you can, wear your favorite little
sundress, and flaunt what you have! Your husband will likely return the favor
and make himself look amazing!
Men are intoxicated by feminine beauty, so looking good for him will make him
appreciate you even more than he already does.
3. Be Understanding
If something comes up with his work schedule and he has to stay for a late
meeting, don't freak. Yeah, sure, he missed dinner (again), but at least he is
calling and letting you know. From time to time, things will come up where you
will be disappointed. Don't overreact, take a deep breathe and understand. Try to
not take things personally, as your husband is already stressed out enough from
those types of situations.
4. Stop Trying to Change Him
Don't try to change your guy into someone, that he obviously is not. Unless, it is
something that is causing him harm (alcoholism, smoking, drugs, etc.), there is
no reason to change. If you married him for who he is, let him stay who he is.
You can challenge him to be the best version of himself but thinking that you can
just erase part of his personality if you nag him enough is crazy. Let him be
himself fully and completely because it is that version that you fell in love with
in the first place. Trying to change his base nature is a mistake and leads to even
more conflicts.
5. Trust Him
Unless your husband has given your real reason to not trust him, always give him
the benefit of the doubt. Most likely you have been cheated on or hurt in a past
relationship, but don't let that baggage follow you into your marriage. Don't
snoop in his phone, check his email, or spy on him when he's out with his
friends. Let him know that you trust him and he will do all that he can to ensure
he does not break your trust.
6. Take Care of Him
When your husband is feeling under the weather, take care of him. Don't make
fun of him because he's acting like a baby. Most likely, he is acting like a baby,
but let him know you are there for him. Make him his favorite meal, go to the
store to get medicine, and let him watch his favorite TV show. In the same
respect, if he is just having a crappy day, give him his space and let him know
that you are there for him if he needs you.
Men want to feel loved and needed, so let him know how much you care about
him, it will make a big difference.
7. Be Yourself
Be the woman he knows sitting at home on the couch. This doesn't mean you
need to belch in public or walk around in your sweatpants all the time. This just
means you don't have to put up a front for the ladies in your child's class or act
snotty in front of his friends. You are who he fell in love with, so you should
never feel like you have to be someone else. Be respectful and courteous when
you are both in public, but don't try to hide who you are. Having that strong
sense of self and high levels of self-confidence are what made him attracted to
you in the first place.
8. Show Interest in His Hobbies
This doesn't mean you have to be with him every time he plays basketball with
his buddies. More so, be aware of the things he likes. If he really likes to hunt,
subscribe to a hunting magazine that he likes or buy him a piece of gear that you
know he's had his eye on. Being interested does not all ways have to mean being
fully involved.
Give him enough space so that can enjoy his hobbies. That does not mean you
have to take up the same hobbies as him: if he wants to go rock out on guitar in
the garage, let him go ahead and do it.
9. Have Consistent Sex
This may seem like an obvious statement, but very important. I'm not just saying
have sex a couple of times a week. Be totally invested in the act as much as
possible. Sex is a very important and essential act to men. Show him you love
him by loving on him. Get into the act and set your insecurities aside. This is the
man you said your vows to and are going to spend the rest of your life with.
Explore each other's bodies and have fun. Try to initiate sex some of the time as
that will spice things up and make your husband even more excited for some fun
in bed.
Of course, if you feel uncomfortable about something, let him know about it.
Your husband wants you to be happy and comfortable as well.
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